On Tuesday at WELCA, we were sharing and Patty Brown and her mother shared that Patty’s brother is dying of ALS. I tried to express the blessing that a dying friend or family member can be. Here is a longer version of that comment.
I have been blessed with two friends who knew they were dying and shared with many, many people.
Russ Harney was an editor for The Post and Courier and had inoperable, incurable cancer. Every other week, I would call and then deliver his paycheck. The P&C paid him regularly despite his absence from the newsroom.
When I, or anyone else would call, Russ would answer the telephone: “Russ Harney’s death bed.” Quite a shock, the first time you heard it. Most of Russ’ friends were calling to share a joke. Half-way through the call, he would tell them the punch line. They and Russ would laugh. We all knew we would miss that laugh and try even harder to find a joke he didn’t know to keep him laughing.
Arlie Porter was one of the toughest, fairest journalists I’ve ever known. Arlie could call any politician in Charleston, ask him a question and get a truthful answer. Sometimes it took two or three questions, but always the truthful answer, even if the politician hated seeing it in print the next day.
Arlie died of ALS, a long, debilitating, nasty disease. Everyone in the newsroom knew his diagnosis and he worked with us until his family moved him out of state. Arlie had people to write his news stories as his dictated and people who simply walked him to and from the bathroom.
On one return from the bathroom, Arlie was holding on to a female journalist’s arm when he realized he was going to fall. Considering the alternatives, yelling for help, pulling the young woman down with him, he thought “Oh, Arlie, be a man and just let go.” He did and everyone in the newsroom rushed to pick him up.
Most of us have no idea when we will die or how. We may get a doctor’s prognosis, we may just age out of life.
The lessons I learned from Russ and Arlie, are: We are all on our death bed, let's enjoy life as God intended and when we do fall down, someone will help us up.