Our White Table Is a Somber Reminder of Those That Aren't Here to Celebrate "We proudly stood and stared at it, and the silence reminded me of who was missing in this moment."
My husband, Randy, had been deployed to the Middle East for about three months when my kids' school held a Veterans Day assembly. Toward the end of the program, the room darkened and a slide bearing the words "America's White Table" came up on a screen.
The stage revealed a small table covered with a white tablecloth, set with a plate, silverware and a few unique objects including a slice of lemon and an inverted glass. It's a scene familiar to many families like mine—one that's recreated at most formal dining events for military members. It serves as a somber reminder of those who aren't there to celebrate.
Inspired by the assembly, my kids and I decided to set up our own White Table at home. We took our cues from America's White Table by Margot Theis Raven. We didn't have all the items we needed, so we improvised. Olivia wrapped a green pencil with some used red tissue paper and a pipe cleaner to make a rose. An old sheet stood in for the spotless linen. Cooper helped write a thank-you note, while Olivia etched the word HERO with her finger into the salt that was sprinkled on the plate. We proudly stood and stared at it, and the silence reminded me of who was missing in this moment.
Carrie Underwood and Ti
As we looked at the table, I found Olivia's little hand in mine, and I squeezed it three times: once each for "I – love – you." Randy's departure was still fresh, and I had lectured the kids that morning that we shouldn't be sad all the time. "Daddy would want us to be happy," I said. But as I gave her a pained smile a tear slid out. She smiled back and squeezed my hand four times: "I – love – you – too." Our table wasn't fancy, but it was gracious and simple. In a year when I thought I'd have less to be thankful for, my heart swelled with gratitude. I couldn't wait to share our new tradition with my husband.
SET WITH PRIDE
A WHITE TABLECLOTH for purity of motive
A BLACK NAPKIN for prisoners of war
A LIT CANDLE to remind us that America is a light in a world of darkness
A RED ROSE for the hopes and prayers of those awaiting their loved one's return
A RED RIBBON TIED TO THE VASE for our determination in finding them
AN INVERTED GLASS for the missed meal
A SLICE OF LEMON for the bitter fate of the missing
A PINCH OF SALT for the tears of their families
LORI VOLKMAN
Dear Lord,
Today we honor our veterans, worthy men and women who gave their best when they were called upon to serve and protect their country.
We pray that you will bless them for their unselfish service in the continual struggle to preserve our freedoms, our safety, and our country’s heritage, for all of us.
Bless them abundantly for the hardships they faced, for the sacrifices they made for their many different contributions to America’s victories over tyranny and oppression.
We respect them, we thank them, we honor them, we are proud of them. We pray that you will watch over these special people and bless them with peace and happiness.
Amen